(07-06-2012 10:54 PM)Lionheart Wrote:  I do wish I had someone close to me that would encourage me to do things.

Ditto - it can make all the difference in life.

Its a shame that more support isnt offered by friends and family....they always seem to underestimate the issues.

It is a while since I have posted here, & I have done a lot of worrying over the past few months about having to do a speech at my daughters wedding, but I think I am through beating myself up over it. Only five weeks to go till the big day. I wont be able to do a speech at her wedding, I would regret it if I did. The way my nerves are about public speaking, I wouldn't survive an attempt at it, so I will just accept the fact that I am not doing one, & help my daughter out in all the other ways that a good father should.

It's good to hear from you Lionheart.

In making your decision, I hope that it has finally brought some closure to the issue.

Like I posted some time ago, your speech is only going to be a small part of the overall day and won't make or break it, and like you already mentioned, there are other ways you'll be able to support your daughter.

Hope the day (if it already hasn't occured!), works out well for the both of you.

Lets us know how it all pans out.

You can only do what you can do and like Globetrotter said, you can support her in many other ways

Thanks guys, BTW, the wedding is on the 17th of November. Even though I have made the decision not to do the speech, it still worries me that people won't understand why I'm not doing it. I'm looking forward to the day, but in some ways, I'm not. Mixed emotions about her getting married as well I spose.

People will just have to understand and you are there supporting your daughter so im sure it will go off just fine

In terms of you not giving the speech, I don't think people will end up caring anywhere near as much as you think they will.

That's the thing with worry - it magnifies and magnifies are fears to such ridculuous lengths that we often end up missing the bigger picture. (This is speaking from experience!!).

If people ask, just say something along the lines of how you weren't comfortable in giving the speech. Remember, it's not as if you're going to be in court(!), and therefore, be expected to give a detailed explanation of yourself.

I guess I could be worrying about it a bit more than I should, its not something all of us can do. If someone mentions about me doing a speech, I will just say that I suck at speeches, cause I do. Anyway, 3 more sleeps to go, we had a rehearsal for it the other night, will let you guys know how it goes.

How did it all go in the end Lionheart?

I'm very intrigued to know.

Well Globetrotter & everyone, sorry I have taken a while to get back to you about how the wedding went. To tell you the truth, on the actual day of the wedding, I never even worried in the slightest about speeches, cause I had made the decision that it just wasn't my thing to attempt one, & believe me, I needn't have done all that worrying about feeling I had to do one, but then again, it may have been a process I had to go through. You see, there were that many other people that volunteered to do speeches, friends & family members, even my daughter herself gave a speech, something she is very good at, a talent that she definitely didn't get from me. So, I was just able to go through the day as father of the bride, & enjoy it, even when I was crying, & that happened a few times, that's for sure. It was just a beautiful day, right from when I got up early in the morning & had breakfast with my daughter, till when we finished up at the reception centre that night. The following week, I actually kept wishing that I could have gone back to the week before the wedding, & gone through it all again. It was just such a great day. I do miss my daughter a bit now though, but I guess all parents go through that.

Well this has been the best news ive had all week Im so happy mate, man....all that worrying and it worked out fine

Bloody awesome news i must say

It's fantastic to hear how the day went Lionheart - thanks for letting us know!

Lionheart, your post about how beautiful the wedding was brought tears to my eyes! You sound like an absolutely Wonderful Dad!

Quote:I do miss my daughter a bit now though, but I guess all parents go through that.

It comes with the territory, Lionheart. I've never stopped missing our boys though it has somewhat lessened through the years. It's wonderful to bring up memories, though, and I do that a lot which helps when missing them so much takes over.

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. It was such a great day we had at the wedding. Might have a go at posting a couple of photo's from the big day. Do you just use imageshack or a photo sharing website of some kind?



Well, looks like I worked out how to do it, so there is three of my favorite pics. Cheers.