Random Social Anxiety related rants!
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02-26-2012, 09:54 PM
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
Thanks Snooks. Seeing that others understand where you're coming from, and especially if it's someone who doesn't suffer from the same problems themselves, helps.
![]() I'd be a dog, a monkey or a bear, or anything but that vain animal, who is so proud of being rational.
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02-27-2012, 02:49 AM
Post: #212
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
(02-25-2012 04:58 AM)Harold-L Wrote: So would you say that you had an easier time in social situations before you lost your job? I mean, has your SA actually gotten worse since then? Or is it as bad as it used to be, but more noticeable seeing as you're more isolated without your job? (does that question even make sense? I thought it did, but reading it over again I'm not so sure... My SA has definitely gotten worse since I left my job. Why? A combination of staying in the house much more, and my mum long starting to use me as her dumping ground for her anxieties and fears (or as I've already mentioned in another thread, she could actually have clinical paranoia and/or the first signs of dementia). (02-25-2012 04:58 AM)Harold-L Wrote: SA related rant: know what I hate the most about SA? It's not the anxiety and social issues in themselves, it's the fact that SA turns me into a jerk. A mean, selfish, rude ...jerk. It won't surprise you to learn that I can relate to this! ![]() Two examples - i) I once remember someone trying to reverse their car out of a narrow street. While reversing, the back of their car happened to latch onto a large piece of wood, and the car started dragging it. Even though I was the one who was closest, it was left to an elderly man (who was behind me), to tell the driver, and to unlatch the piece of wood. ii) More recently, in a supermarket, a woman dropped some of her products. She most definintely had her hands full as she was holding a very full basket and a baby. I was right by her, and wanted to help, but in the end, left her to it. Lovely has SA can hold you back in the simplest of situations! Occasionally I wonder how I might react in a life or death situation. If I thought I was having a heart attack, would I ring for an ambulance, or talk myself out of it through fear of 'inconveniencing' people! ![]() Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr Seuss Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow'. Mary Anne Radacher |
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02-27-2012, 06:33 PM
Post: #213
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
Yeah, caring for an elderly parent with anxiety issues (and possibly dementia) certainly can't make matters any better.
![]() It's good to see that you've been trying rather hard to push yourself and try to find a job lately though. Even though the whole job-hunting process is a tough one, hopefully it'll help you in the long run and take you out of your isolation. Quote:It won't surprise you to learn that I can relate to this! 005_sbiggrinYep, I could add a long list of similar situations. And they always seem to be lose/lose. If you try to help the person out, you'll do so in a stressed and anxious manner, which makes you clumsy. Chances are you'll make a fool of yourself one way or another and feel like an idiot because of that. If you don't help the person, you'll feel like an idiot because of that. And that realisation is what makes you hesitate. "I'll do it, no it's not worth it, but I should do it, no I shouldn't, I should, I shouldn't", and before you know it, it's too late. ![]() Quote:Occasionally I wonder how I might react in a life or death situation. If I thought I was having a heart attack, would I ring for an ambulance, or talk myself out of it through fear of 'inconveniencing' people! 005_ssuprisedIt sounds like a joke, but sadly I don't know how I would react in a situation like that either. If it was a very serious situation I would probably manage to talk myself into making the call, but I would hesitate and it would take me a moment to find the courage to actually do so. A moment which you might not have in a life or death situation. ![]() I'd be a dog, a monkey or a bear, or anything but that vain animal, who is so proud of being rational.
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03-01-2012, 08:12 AM
Post: #214
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
(02-27-2012 06:33 PM)Harold-L Wrote:Quote:Occasionally I wonder how I might react in a life or death situation. If I thought I was having a heart attack, would I ring for an ambulance, or talk myself out of it through fear of 'inconveniencing' people! 005_ssuprised I agree - if it wasn't true, it would be funny. To think, one moment of hesitation could well end up costing your (or someone else's) life. ![]() It doesn't bear thinking about. Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr Seuss Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow'. Mary Anne Radacher |
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01-22-2013, 12:43 AM
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
An organisation is having a jobs fair today, and I'm too scared to ring them up to ask them about it, let alone actually attend the event in person!!!
Sometimes my social anxiety makes me feel so backwards in life... ![]() ![]() Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr Seuss Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow'. Mary Anne Radacher |
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01-23-2013, 02:10 AM
Post: #216
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
(01-22-2013 12:43 AM)Globetrotter Wrote: An organisation is having a jobs fair today, and I'm too scared to ring them up to ask them about it, let alone actually attend the event in person!!!The person you are calling doesn't know who you are; to the person on the other end of the line you are just a voice. Maybe thinking that way will also help as well as writing down some questions you may want to ask. I hope this helps a bit. ![]() |
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01-26-2013, 06:47 AM
Post: #217
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
Couldn't you have contacted them over email? Most of the time, that seems to be an option these days, luckily. I don't know what I would have done if it wasn't for email communication.
![]() I'd be a dog, a monkey or a bear, or anything but that vain animal, who is so proud of being rational.
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01-29-2013, 03:05 AM
Post: #218
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
(01-23-2013 02:10 AM)luba Wrote:(01-22-2013 12:43 AM)Globetrotter Wrote: An organisation is having a jobs fair today, and I'm too scared to ring them up to ask them about it, let alone actually attend the event in person!!!The person you are calling doesn't know who you are; to the person on the other end of the line you are just a voice. Maybe thinking that way will also help as well as writing down some questions you may want to ask. I hope this helps a bit. Actually, thinking about it that way does help a bit Luba. Thank you! In the end I did ring them up, though it was only to enquire whether the open day was still on (due to the bad weather we had at the time), and what time the open day finished. All of the jobs in question eventually ended up appearing on the organisation's website. (01-26-2013 06:47 AM)Harold-L Wrote: I don't know what I would have done if it wasn't for email communication. Ditto! ![]() Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Dr Seuss Courage does not always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, 'I will try again tomorrow'. Mary Anne Radacher |
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05-15-2013, 07:39 AM
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RE: Random Social Anxiety related rants!
(06-09-2008 11:07 AM)Shinobi Wrote: This happened the other day, but whatever... Hi Shinobi, I can understand you feeling awkward in these situations but life would be so much more fulfilling if you could get over this.One thing i found that helped me was something called EFT (Emotional freedom Technique) It involves tapping certain areas of the body while saying statements,it could go something like this.While tapping the karate chop part of the hand say something like "Even though i feel awkward meeting people socially, i deeply and completely love and accept myself" Repeat it 3 times while tapping there.Then tap the top of your head,inner eyebrow,outside of the eye,under the eye,under the nose,on the chin,collarbone and then under the armpit where a woman's bra strap would be-while just repeating "i feel awkward meeting people" You can just youtube EFT Tapping. This is very effect if done for about 15 minutes. Another alternative which is extremely effective is the fear gone treatment to be found at feargone.com it uses fast NLP techniques.Hope you found this useful. |
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