uzibah Wrote:School was extremely difficult for me too. I was suffering with such anxiety and worries about anxiety. One class in particular was very hard for me.. I hated that the teacher always closed the door, it made me feel more stuck and claustrophobic. I would take the seat nearest the door and when it was open I was more relaxed but the teacher would always shut it again. I had taken to ditching that class and finally after quite a few missed classes the teacher saw me in the halls and asked me where I had been... I just told him, I said I don't know why but I am nervous in your class... I thought he would think I was an idiot but it was the truth, he asked me to see him after school and I did. We had a long talk about what made me nervous, etc. Come to find out, he used to suffer from panic attacks as well and was very understanding! He promised me that the door would always stay open and told me that if I ever felt like I had to leave to just do so... well, knowing I could just leave made me so much more calm and with the door always being open I was so much less anxious.. so this worked out for me and I guess the moral here is that we are not all so different, it is ok to tell your teachers that you are suffering from anxiety, etc. I have found that more than half the people I mention this stuff too can relate and a good teacher even without having the same experience should be at least able to be understanding and do what they can. I went to college and had the same issue, spoke to my professor and he felt so bad.. he helped me and always checked in on me to make sure I was ok. He didnt have any personal understanding of anxiety attacks but was very sympathetic. Don't be afraid to talk to your teachers, they can often times make it much less stressful than it is. Also, remember, you CAN walk out, you are NOT stuck there!!
As for other students being jerks, what can I say, kids are often jerks, they don't understand the magnitude of their words and actions... mostly they are immature and ignorant, try to take what they say and do with a grain of pity salt, they are usually too naive to understand that well, they are naive! Be well and hang in there!

I'm glad everything worked out for you Uzibah.
I would talk to my teachers about my anxiety/OCD but honestly I have a fear of imperfection and telling them may make my anxiety/OCD worse.

Barrucadu Wrote:School isn't the best of places for me either. There are a few people who pick on me because I am a Satanist...

That could be why I am so emotionally closed (in real life, not over the internet) to people who I don't know very well.

I'm also very 'emotionaly closed' in real life.
I don't talk much at school, unless I'm around my good friends. But now I'm not even talking to them because I fear they are judging me.

Ana, that's how I was too. I had a laugh with my close friends. I'm still like it now and it's served me quite well. I know you might not think so, but, there's nothing wrong in the way you are.
People will accept you for who you are and if they don't, they're not worth knowing.

Lolly Wrote:Ana, that's how I was too. I had a laugh with my close friends. I'm still like it now and it's served me quite well. I know you might not think so, but, there's nothing wrong in the way you are.
People will accept you for who you are and if they don't, they're not worth knowing.

Wise words Lolly, wise words.

i think its so important if you've been bullied at school to try and stop it reoccurring elsewhere, like in the workplace or college at a later stage. i was bullied at school, went to another one where something else happened and i sort of excluded myself to keep safe. eventually i stopped going (this was the 70's and no-one really cared then, my parents were never informed) but then my education suffered. in jobs later i found in every single one i was victimised (workplace bullying) and i know that if we have been bullied we may not realise that our behaviour may show this to other bullies elsewhere in our work etc i caught up on my education in my late 20's and did really well, then when i entered the workplace again i was bullied. i broke down in 2002 then early this year i returned to work and hey presto, the vultures appeared again. a bully always looks for victims and i strongly suggest ana that if you can make yourself safe now and have education at home and keep up your social life that this may be the first great step in valuing yourself so much you won't 'learn' to be a victim like i did. i'm really poorly at the moment and i'm 45 now and feel that i only have 15 years left of work-life left so whats the point, but, there is a point, i deserve the right to work and not be bullied, i've had over 30 years of it and enough is enough, so when i feel better, once the help my gp has set in place starts my aim is to really look at this issue and maybe i can stop what some stupid kids started 30 years ago as in reality it is really me carrying it on?
i went to a assertiveness group about 15 years ago and although it was scary i did it and it really helped me, when i'm better i plan to go to another, but the thought of being with people right now is too much.
i really feel for you ana. something i do know is that bullies really feel crap inside, its usual that they have rock bottom self esteems and probably difficult lives, this gives them no right to hit out and be destructive, they don't know any better. one woman who helped me years ago advised me to 'act as if' i was confident with people, i tried it out, failed, tried it again and again, eventually it did work and i know it will again, my change in body language back then sent other signals to potential bullies and they left me alone, but 'life' happened again and i slipped back to where i am now. i think if you're committed to yourself and not let the bullys grind you down you'll get what you need out of home education, i wish you well with it (sorry gone on again ) rocha

I used to hate schoool and be scared of it. It was like I was in this enclosed space where I didn't have my parents or anybody that loved me. But I got over it now. it was just start of year 7 scaredness.cuz its first year of high school n everything. but after these 6 vweeks hols, i'll be in year 8. WOOOHHH =D =D =D =D =D =D

Wow someone happy to be back at school, thats shocking lol!! But great of course

I love school! everything about it except history is good. Most people call me the geek freak because im crazy n hyper and I love school so much. My favourtie subjects in order are:
1.Geography
2.I.C.T
3.Science
4.Maths

Well thats something to be proud of and hopefully your education will take you far

I love school with every bone in my body. (Might explain why I am going to become a highschool english/history teacher... hehe) But there is one thing that always gets me. Lockdown drills are complete torture for me. We do them sometimes so we know what to do incase we have a shooter come to our school. (the likely hood of that happening being about a zillion to one, but they are like fire drills) We always have to crowd in closets or practice rooms and stuff like that, and it is so terrifying.

I used to have people make fun of me about my weight, and the same thing happened to me. I grew six inches over the summer and lost about 20 lbs and I go back to a whole school full of people saying I have an eating disorder... what can I say, some people are never happy...

I understand it must be a pain having to do them lockdown drills and god forbid you ever need to do it for real but its good to be prepared.

I can certainly relate to being teased about your weight because I had the same thing when I was at school. I lost most of my weight when I had left school and my family and friends thought I had an eating disorder too. Some people are never happy as you say but as long as your happy thats the main thing.

Jonnyjonny_uk Wrote:Well thats something to be proud of and hopefully your education will take you far

Yes I think it will.
I love to boast about the fact I'm in top group for Maths, sports and D.T (design and technology)
and second top group for everything else.

Well its great you have something to boast about and your proud of your acheivements Well done.

Man, I wish I loved school. It's make alot of things better and easier!

:lol: I think I might just hate school more than socks and sandales.

So how is everyone coping now your back at school!!! Those that are of course lol.